Relating to the DISC Profiles

I had been on teams ... teams of committed Christians who struggled to work together because of different behavioural styles. Christians are not exempt from the challenges of human relationships. In this short article, I like to take a look at relating to people of different profiles.

The following are general guidelines and do not apply to every situation. Moreover, every individual is different; the better you understand that person, the better you are able to relate to him.

High D's Tendencies Relating to a High D ...
if you're his leader   if you're his subordinate  
Motivation: Results, Challenge, Action Give challenging or "leadership" assignments with parameters Be efficient
Feelings: Detached and independent; Control; Tend not to value feelings; May be hot-tempered under pressure Don't pry but be a model
... share your life to draw him out
Stick to business
Interaction: One way; not a good listener; Tell others to just do it; no explanation given Be a model
... stress logic in your decisions
Be direct; share the bottom line first then the impact of his plans/decisions on staff members

High I's Tendencies Relating to a High I ...
if you're his leader   if you're his subordinate  
Motivation: Recognition, Approval, Visibility Give "high visibility" assignments with deadlines Don't be a wet blanket; support their ideas whenever possible
Feelings: Optimistic; Emote; readily express their own feelings and respond to others' feelings Allow him to express his intuition and ideas; Teach "appropriateness" in sharing Provide details for transforming his ideas into action
Interaction: Enthusiastic; One way; tell ... love to verbalise Stand when talking to keep the conversation brief Take a seat and make yourself comfortable

High S's Tendencies Relating to a High S ...
if you're his leader   if you're his subordinate  
Motivation: Relationships, Appreciation Give group assignments and/or specialised tasks Be appreciative;
Be his friend
Feelings: Warm and accomodating; Emote to inner circle of friends Allow time to "warm up" to you Remind him of ministry goals and tasks at hand
Interaction: Good listener; Tend not to initiate changes or relationships; Ask "how" and "who" questions Provide personal assurance of support Show how your ideas minimise "upheavals"

High C's Tendencies Relating to a High C ...
if you're his leader   if you're his subordinate  
Motivation: Being Right, Quality Give "evaluation" assignments and/or work that require precision Don't try to be more right/correct than he is
Feelings: Cautious; Control; does not say / reveal much Provide "open door" policy ... give them time to think If appropriate, provide reassurance that his plans are right
Interaction: Good listener; Ask "what" and "why" questions Provide explanations Be supportive

Convincing a ... Disagreeing with a ...
High D Show the gains and suggest what needs to be done Agree with him on a broad level then he is likely to be open to other possibilities/options
High I Provide positive setting and talk about who will be involved Don't! Let time pass and emotional enthusiasm to fizzle out
High S Show how your ideas minimise "upheavals" and talk about how you all will work together Find common grounds to disagree together!
High C Talk about why and how things will be done Disagree with facts

As you can see, the above calls for adaptability on your part ... the ability to change your behaviour and methods of communication to adapt to the needs of a particular person at a particular time.

To be adaptable, you need the following attitudes:
  • a sense of security and worth in Christ

    But God demonstrates His own love toward us,
    in that while we were yet sinners,
    Christ died for us.
    Rom 5:8

    But as many as received Him,
    to them He gave the right to become children of God,
    even to those who believe in His name
    John 1:12

    in Him you have been made complete ...
    Col 2:10

    38For I am convinced that neither death, nor life,
    nor angels, nor principalities,
    nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers,

    39nor height, nor depth,
    nor any other created thing,
    will be able to separate us from the love of God,
    which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
    Rom 8:38-39
    This means that no matter what others (or you) think, say about or do to you (yourself) will not change your identity in Christ.

  • a humble attitude in dealing with others

    3Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit,
    but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;

    4do not merely look out for your own personal interests,
    but also for the interests of others.

    5Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,

    6who, although He existed in the form of God,
    did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped,

    7but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant,
    and being made in the likeness of men.

    8Being found in appearance as a man,
    He humbled Himself by becoming obedient
    to the point of death, even death on a cross.
    Phil 2:3-8
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